How Long Should Wedding Vows Be?
- jennytesar
- Jun 9
- 3 min read
If you're currently staring at a blank page wondering how on earth you're supposed to write wedding vows, you're not alone.
One of the most common questions couples ask me is:
"How long should my vows be?"
The answer is actually quite simple.
Long enough to say what you want to say.
Short enough that your guests stay with you.
Most wedding vows take between one and two minutes to deliver. That's usually around 150 to 300 words. It may not sound like much, but you'd be surprised how much you can say in that time.
In fact, some of the most memorable vows I've heard have been the shortest.
The Biggest Mistake Couples Make
Many people think they need to write a speech.
They don't.
Your vows aren't your life story.
They don't need to include every holiday you've taken together, every funny memory, or every challenge you've overcome.
That's often covered elsewhere in the ceremony.
Your vows are simply promises.
They're a chance to tell your partner what they mean to you and the commitments you're making for the future.
Think About Your Audience
While your vows are for your partner, they are spoken in front of the people you love most.
The sweet spot is usually when your vows are long enough to be meaningful but short enough to hold everyone's attention.
I've seen guests hanging on every word during a one-minute vow.
I've also seen people start shifting in their seats when vows stretch into a five-minute speech.
A wedding ceremony should flow naturally, and vows are often most powerful when they're heartfelt and concise.
Do Both Vows Need to Be the Same Length?
Not at all.
Every person communicates differently.
One partner might write 150 words. The other might write 250.
That's perfectly fine.
What matters more is that the tone feels balanced.
If one person delivers a heartfelt minute of promises and the other follows with a ten-minute comedy routine, it can feel a little uneven.
The goal isn't to match word for word. It's to make sure both people feel equally represented.
Should Wedding Vows Be Funny?
Absolutely—if that's who you are.
Some of the best vows I've heard have included humour.
Not because they were trying to be funny, but because they reflected the couple's relationship.
A little laughter can be wonderful in a ceremony.
Just remember that your vows should still contain actual vows.
After all, you're making promises, not auditioning for a comedy special.
What Should Wedding Vows Include?
A simple formula is:
Tell your partner what they mean to you.
Share what you love about them.
Make a few meaningful promises.
End with a statement about your future together.
That's it.
Simple often works best.
A Celebrant's Tip
When you've finished writing your vows, read them out loud.
Then read them again.
Wedding vows sound very different when spoken than they do when read silently on a screen.
If you run out of breath halfway through a sentence, it's probably too long.
If it sounds like you, feels genuine, and comes from the heart, you're on the right track.
The Wedding Vows Nobody Remembers
Here's something I've learnt after standing beside hundreds of couples.
Guests rarely remember the longest vows.
They remember the genuine ones.
They remember the tears that appeared unexpectedly.
The promise that made everyone smile.
The moment a couple forgot their nerves and simply spoke from the heart.
Those are the vows people talk about long after the wedding is over.
So if you're worried about the perfect length, don't be.
Focus on being authentic.
The right words are usually fewer than you think.
Frequently Asked Questions
How many words should wedding vows be?
Most wedding vows are between 150 and 300 words, which typically takes one to two minutes to read aloud.
Is two minutes too long for wedding vows?
No. Two minutes is often considered the ideal length for personal wedding vows.
Can wedding vows be funny?
Yes. Humour can make vows memorable and personal, as long as meaningful promises remain at the heart of them.
Should both partners have the same length vows?
Not necessarily. It's more important that the tone and effort feel balanced rather than the exact word count.
What if I'm nervous about reading my vows?
That's completely normal. Practising out loud a few times before the wedding can help you feel more comfortable and confident.
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